It is likely that you have noticed a recurring theme in my writing – imperfection.
We all know that no one is perfect except for God. Yet, we hold others and often ourselves even more so to this standard of perfection. We try and try and try to be the best. Period.
Our homes aren’t really clean unless they are spotless, having been dusted, vacuumed, scrubbed and sanitized in every nook and cranny. And so, we decide we really are no good at this homemaking thing.
Our marriages aren’t awesome unless we have no fights, can’t wait to see each other (all the time!), go on date night without fail every week, and never get annoyed with our spouses. And so, we decide that this is all it will ever be, letting ourselves “fall out” of love with the very one we must choose daily to love.
Our health is not where it should be unless we look like the last winner of Biggest Loser or America’s next Top Model. And so, we choose the 5th chocolate chip cookie, finish off a bag of Family Size chips, and waste months without moving our butts, telling ourselves that it really doesn’t matter anyway.
But the point is, it does. All of it does. Our hearts, our homes, our marriages, and our health.
The question is, why do we let ourselves get to the point where we give up in despair? It’s because we expect perfect. All the time. Everywhere.
The point is, it’s not going to happen. You need to embrace the imperfect. I’m not saying give up on improving yourself, your home, or your marriage – at all! In fact, what I am saying is far from that.
Rather than expect perfect, embrace imperfect. Accept progress. And you’ll be amazed at the changes which start to happen in your life.
Today was my first day back from a much needed vacation with my husband. Rather than expecting more than humanly possible from myself, I gave myself space to do what I could. I chose to sleep in and recharge from the busy schedule we kept while away – my body needed this. I chose to sip my coffee longer than usual, planning my week and praying to God. I chose to spread the tasks I needed to accomplish over the week rather than attempt it all today – my heart needed this. I chose to work on chores as I could – my home needed this. I chose to make cookies in between cleaning my kitchen, doing laundry, and watching education videos – my family needed this. And because I chose to pace myself today, I am not the frazzled woman I would have been at the end of the day – my marriage needed this.
Do you get a picture of what I am saying? It goes back to the ultimate goal of purpose, not perfection. People over projects.
So, if you haven’t done so yet, make the decision. Embrace imperfect. You’ll be amazed at the changes which start to take place.